Schools-sigh! rather school hunting- *SIGH!*
Ever since the little fellow turned 2 people began to question if we would be sending him to montessory/play school and why not and offered opinions why we should. But I stuck it out saying that he travels nearly 3 hours with us and is happy at the day care and Im teaching him most stuff that they would teach in a play school. Added to it was all the practical difficulties of who would be at home when he comes home from play school and all that.
We have now begun school hunting. Basically, we have only 2 schools in mind – 1 which is close to my parents place and the other which is between our place and the in-laws place.
I never thought that sending a child to school needed so much thought and preparation – yeah preparation in terms of money! Its so expensive! Amounting to almost 70-80K minimum even for a “non-international” school. So can you imagine if someone decides on an international school for their kid?!! :-O And preparation in terms of what the schools are and what they have to offer.
Even as we figured out the options, each school has its own set of rules – rules of priority where only kids whose parents have returned from onsite assigments, sblings of kids studying in that school, parents being alumni of that school, teachers’ kids and then finally if there are any seats left (they pride themselves in having less number of seats so as to be able to give ‘individual attention’ to the child), then the other mere mortals like us stand a chance. Doesnt it sound like a job description?!! :-O And then there is the shortlisting of candidates, interview with the parents and the child and then a long harrowing wait until they even let us know if we are selected or not.
Then there is a question of deciding if you want your child to study ‘state syllabus’ or ‘CBSE’ or ‘ICSE’. This totally confuses me. Im not sure if Im a great mom because I truly dont know my child’s calibre in learning/comprehension and memory! As a smitten mom I can tell that he learns everything quick and fast and keeps them in memory, but once in school its a totally different ball game! How do I know how he’s going to fare?! What if its too overwhelming for the child to be in a new environment with new people that he refuses to learn anything? What if he/she is a shy child who clams up when questioned even though they understand everything? What if he doesnt want to play? What if he doesnt like the co-curricular activities? I have so many starting hiccups and doubts and the school asks us to decide on his 10th std board exams?!! 15yrs later? :-O I dont know what’s going to happen 15 days later – how can I guage my child now for an exam he needs to take 15 years later?!! :-O
Its a very scary thought for me. And do I have a choice of moving him out of a school or syllabus if he doesnt like it/cant cope with it? Or would I be a mom-in-denial? I know, I might be thinking too much ahead – but thats what the school expects us parents to do – Hell! He just turned 3 yrs old- and Im still thinking Montessory or Nursery (Apparently there is a difference) would be better for him and you want me to decide for the board exams?!
With all these schooling concerns, there are other practicalities to think of-What incase of emergency? What after school? What other activities? My parents silently mock me that they never thought so much about our schooling and we turned out just fine.
Any ideas and hints which might help us in his school decision?